Yes it’s ANOTHER boy!

Three sentences I seem to be saying a lot at the moment:

1. Any day now

2. A little boy

3. No, we won’t be trying for a girl.

The third one REALLY pisses me off. When people hear that we are having a third little boy, 9 times out of 10 their response is something along the lines of ‘Oh, so you’ll be trying again for a girl?’. One old woman on the bus even went as far as to say to Graham that he wasn’t a man because he hadn’t given me a girl. What the actual f**k??

When I was pregnant with Alex, someone actually said to me that they were sorry when they found out baby number 2 was also a boy. I was completely confused – why were they sorry? We certainly weren’t! The same person has made similar comments this time as well. They genuinely think we should be upset that bump is another boy.

Of course, we would both love a little girl. I have no problem in saying that, and I joke that I’m going to put Ben in dresses and pretend he is a girl. But seriously, would either of us change the fact he is a boy? Absolutely not. We thought this time around we were having a girl. After having two boys most people would probably think the same. This pregnancy was different from the start as well, so when Benjamin gave us a very clear flash of his boy bits, we were a bit surprised but over the moon. All we wanted was a healthy baby, and with so many people unable to have children, I don’t feel we have any right to be choosy about the sex of our kids.

I also hate people using the word ‘trying’ – like having a girl is something we should be aiming for. We could ‘try’ forever and end up with a football team of boys. Three kids are what we wanted. Three boys are what we will have.

For us, three boys are actually ideal. They will be very close in age – there are only 16 months in between Harrison and Alex, and there will be 2 years in between Alex and Ben. Three boys under 3.5. It’s going to be hard work but I think because they are all boys and so close in age, they will grow up to be best friends and look after one another. In terms of practicality, it is easier as well. We have had to buy very little as we kept all the clothes from Harrison and Alex. Clothes and toys can be passed down, saving us a fortune. They can all share a bedroom. We do live in a three-bed house but the third room is so tiny and cold, we wouldn’t want to use it as a bedroom. Instead, they will all share the big room and have lots of fun in there together.

I know the ‘trying for a girl’ comment will be something we will be asked over and over again for many years to come. At the moment I just smile and tell them no, we won’t be having any more, but I know as the kids get older I will probably get less and less tolerant of being asked.

Please, if you see someone with more than one child of the same sex, don’t ask them if they’re going to keep going until they have one of the other, or tell them you feel sorry for them!!

11 thoughts on “Yes it’s ANOTHER boy!

  1. God some people!! As if being blessed with 3 gorgeous, healthy boys is something to be unhappy about! I knew Toby was a boy from the day I got that positive test, even though we didn’t find out. I would love a girl too but I see myself having another boy and I’m so happy to think of Toby having a playmate! Totally agree with you, they’ll be best of friends and have such a happy life xx

  2. Some people really have no idea do they?? What a stupid thing to say to you. Making small talk without realising they are actually upsetting you. We are blessed to have children in the first place right? Doesn’t matter what sex they are. I am used to SUPER annoying questions about the girls too! xxxx

  3. First of all – CONGRATULATIONS on your 3 beautiful and healthy little boys!! My husband is one of 3 boys too so I can imagine his mum got the same cr*p. Some people just don’t think before they speak – and some people are just plain rude. Ooh those boys are going to grow up and have so much fun together! Well done mama and you have a lovely blog! Mim 🙂 #MMWBH

  4. Congratulations! 3 boys will be crazy but how lovely to watch them grow together. We have two girls and we were really pleased – as much as I love my brother we’re not that close in terms of our day to day lives, most of the same sex siblings I know are a lot closer (fingers crossed).
    We have also had comments along the lines of trying for a boy – generally from older relatives on my husbands side (old people get away with saying so much!!).
    Enjoy your family!
    Xx

  5. We’ve recently found out we are having another girl and I’m not going to lie – I cried. I had felt so sure that it was going to be a boy and hadn’t really thought too much about how I would feel if it was a girl. I think my reaction was shock more than anything. An hour later I was over it and now I’m excited. After a couple of ‘false starts’ I am just happy to be having a healthy little person to complete our family. Yes, we are stopping at two and, yes, people are already asking about a third. People say the strangest things some times! x

  6. some people are just crazy! We are pregnant with our second son and couldn’t be happier that our two boys will be so close to each other and hopefully great friends. I’m also very pleased about the financial savings of having baby no2 be the same sex as baby no1 : ) good luck with it all! X

  7. My biggest pet peeve after having my 2nd (girl first boy second) “you have a perfect little family you don’t need anymore now” excuse me… how do you know how many children I want? I, like you, wanted 3 children, we have 1 girl and 2 boys, and if they were all girls or all boys I wouldn’t love them any less!

  8. Geez the things some nutters say to pregnant woman! Why is it being pregnant gives people a license to rid their rude filter! My sister in law gets this she’s on her 4th girl and has people saying to her that she ‘can’t carry boys’ as if there’s something wrong with her! What a load of tosh. Congrats on your boys btw xx

  9. Fab post hun! I couldn’t agree more with you. We have the same age gaps! My first 2 boys are 17 mths apart and my 2nd and 3rd are 2 yrs, 3 wks apart. My 3rd and 4th have the biggest age gap of 2 yrs 9mths. I love that they are all so close in age and all boys. Just think of the fun they will all have growing up together! 🙂 xx

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