Naming a baby is one of the most difficult things I’ve had to do. Whatever name you give to your child, they’re pretty much stuck with it for the rest of their life. The name has to suit them as a baby, as a child, a teenager, an adult and an old person. People do tend to judge someone by their name (Katie Hopkins anyone?) whether we like it or not. We all like to say we don’t, but let’s face it, if you were interviewing people for a job, you’re more than likely going to see an Elizabeth as a more suitable candidate than a Destinee-Mai. We shouldn’t, but it’s true. As a teacher who has taught hundreds of kids, I tend to associate certain names with certain kids, and that makes name choosing even trickier!
My pet hates when it comes to names (and I know I’m going to end up offending someone somewhere – sorry!!) are:
Faddy trendy names – Jayden, Brooklyn, Kasey, Bailey etc. I know all names start off somewhere, but I just can’t see these names being ones that will still be around in 100 years time!
Double barrelled names – Lily-May, Tyra-Skye, Jason-Lee…. what’s wrong with having a first name and and a middle name?!
Made up spellings – I know someone who called their daughter Sophie – gorgeous name – but to be ‘different’ spelt it Soffee. The poor girl has been condemned to a life of explaining that her name doesn’t rhyme with coffee, and spelling it aloud to everyone. She hates it!
Plain daft names – I read a status on a popular baby page on Facebook asking what people had called their daughters – there were people calling their kids Rainbow, SunShyne, Storm-Blue. Those kids will have those names as old people. I wonder how they will feel about their names then?
We thought long and hard about the boy’s names, settling on Harrison James and Alexander Thomas. We wanted names that could be shortened into proper names (Harry and Alex). We wanted names that sounded quite modern but still would stand the test of time. I don’t think we did too bad – both names are popular and modern enough to be in the top hundred names, but not so common that everyone in their class will share their names. To be honest, the meanings of names are something we haven’t really considered – I don’t actually know what their names mean! They look nice written down,they sound right with their surname, and that’s what matters.
Both of the boys have some element of their uncle’s names in their own – Harrison has the same middle name as my eldest brother (James) and Alex’s middle name is my youngest brother’s first name (Thomas). This was purely coincidental – we loved both names and they work well their first names – but them having that connection is nice.
Now we’re playing the name game for a third time. I’m fifteen weeks pregnant so still have plenty of time to choose a name, but we both like having an idea sorted, especially as we want Harrison and Alex to get used to the name. Choosing a boy’s name has been relatively easy – we *think* if baby is a boy he will be Benjamin Rhys – it could all change though! Girl’s names have been harder. We started off with Olivia, which we both love, but it’s the number one name at the moment which has put us off. We also like Megan, but neither of us are keen on Meg! Our next choice was Victoria which I think is a lovely name, but for some reason I can’t visualise our baby being a Victoria.
We keep going back to the name Jessica, which is what we probably would have called Alex if he had been a girl. It goes nicely with Rose, which is what we’ve chosen for a middle name. It can be shortened nicely and is one of those names that works whatever age. I also really like Freya, but Graham isn’t so keen.
You’re never ever going to please everyone with a name choice. Someone is always going to hate the name and pull a face. At the end of the day, as long as you like it and can face saying it approximately 100 times a day for the next eighteen years, then it is up to you!