From a very young age, we are fed the idea of the ‘perfect proposal’ – the expensive diamond ring, the beautiful location, the bended knee and the famous words ‘Will You Marry Me?’, or something along those lines.
For me, a grand gesture like that would have been my worst nightmare. I don’t do massive displays of romance and prefer things a lot more low key. A week before Graham and I actually got engaged, almost 8 years ago, we went to Paris for a long weekend. I had a feeling he was going to propose to me at some point, and the thought of him doing it anywhere near the Eiffel Tower, or in a restaurant in front of lots of people was my idea of hell. I’m still not sure if he was ever planning to do it whilst we were in Paris, but he picked up on all the hints, and waited until the next week when we were back home.
The proposal, whilst not romantic by any stretch of the imagination, was perfect for me. I was sitting at home, after coming home from my Saturday job. He leaned over my shoulder with a beautiful ring and asked me to marry him. To me, this was the perfect proposal. Nothing flash, nothing fancy. Eight years on, we still haven’t actually got round to getting married, but it’s a moment I will still never forget. In recent years, both my brothers have proposed to their girlfriends and theirs was very different. My youngest brother did it on the beach in Wales, my eldest brother did it by the Grand Canyon in Las Vegas. Both very different, both very romantic, and I know both my soon-to-be-sister-in-laws were over the moon.
However, for almost a quarter of women, the big proposal was a bit of a disappointment, and I think that’s really sad. A survey commissioned by Ingle and Rhode of 1000 people who have been engaged in the past 10 years found that the setting of the proposal was what let it down. God knows what they would have thought of ours then!
The survey also found out what women really thought about the ring that their partner chose for them, which makes for some interesting reading. Us women can be a fussy lot it seems!
I’d love to hear more about your proposal. Was it everything you ever dreamed about or was it a bit of a let down?